Posts Tagged ‘Sexual Confidence’
Today’s blog post is about vaginal massage. Vaginal massage is one of the MOST UNDERAPPRECIATED methods of amplifying a woman’s orgasm. I bet that nearly every single man reading this blog post doesn’t have any idea how to provide a sensual massage that leads into a vaginal massage. Vaginal massage is the in between point for sexual massage and foreplay. It is one of the first opportunities to properly exhibit one of the foreplay tips of mastery. Normally when men attempt a sexual massage they do not properly melt into the next process, they just jump right into foreplay. THEY ARE CLUELESS! They stumble all over her body thinking they’re giving her the experience of a lifetime and they have NO IDEA that they’re MESSING THE ENTIRE THING UP! Meanwhile she sits there bored pretending to moan so he won’t feel discouraged, since if he feels discouraged then there’s no way he’ll really fuck her properly. Let me go over some of the vital mistakes men make.
1 – Move too quickly. Men often get way to excited during any sexual experience and they rush to the finish. When a man massages he’ll often go from massaging a part of the body and the next thing the girl knows he’s trying to finger her. Bad play gentlemen, take it easy.
2 – Move too slowly. Sometimes men go too far the other way, they shut down their animal brain completely and they spend too much time calculating what to do next. This is partially because they do not know how and when to transfer from one act to the next. Keep in mind how you will move from one position or method to another.
3 – Discriminate their attention. Don’t try and think in terms of “what is the most optimal”. Here’s an example: if they clit is the most sensitive area then it’s the most important. It will give me the most return on my efforts, why would I focus on anything less? This is a HUGE MISTAKE that MEN EVERYWHERE make. Don’t discriminate your attention, think of the whole pie not just the best slice.
Here are some foreplay tips so you don’t screw it up next time.
1- Don’t move too quickly.
2- Don’t just jump to her goodies
3- Take time to create a whole experience. From start to finish.
4- Focus on overall enjoyment than orgasms at first.
Take is easy and don’t screw it up
-ASCW
I want to talk a bit about penis size. Men worldwide are gripped with paralyzing fear that their penis isn’t long enough, thick enough, big enough, etc. I think it is something many men get hung up on, and something that is rarely accurately addressed. I say accurately because ENTIRE INDUSTRIES exist to instill and keep men PARALYZED with fear. Frankly I’m sick and tired of all the bullshit out there making men think that they can’t be sex gods unless they were born hung or buy their retarded tablets. I want to shed light on this situation to end the tyranny and enable every man big or small to fuck like a champion.
As I said there are entire industries out there to kick and keep men down. Take a look at Enzyne or Extenze. Their entire business revolves keeping you afraid and insecure. Hell just look in your spam folder, how many emails are trying to instill fear and insecurity in you? How many are telling you that you need a bigger cock to satisfy a woman?
There’s an even bigger culprit, porn. Porn leads to a common vicious cycle among men. A cycle that results in more and more insecurity and fear about their penis size. Porn features men with gigantic cocks. As well as women who are paid a lot of money to scream their heads off, and fake orgasms. When men watch porn they compare themselves to the porn star. Now remember a large majority of men are hopelessly bad in bed, and the majority of men have an average-ish sized cock. So what happens these men watch porn? They see the girl screaming and wonder “how can I get my girl to like sex that much.” And then they see the guy’s gigantic cock and the girl screaming, “It’s so big”, etc. It is not hard to understand why so many men are so insecure. However it is all bullshit. Porn is fake, and staged. Porn queens typically do one or more of the following before a scene. All sorts of warm-ups and stretches to prepare for the monstercock, apply numbing gels so they can’t feel anything, or get doped up. So what happens to the unsuspecting porn watching male:
1 – They watch porn
2- They have sex with a girl badly, the girl probably doesn’t orgasm because the guy sucks
3 – They watch more porn and notice the screaming orgasms and the giant cock
4- Man doubts himself, which lowers his sexual confidence, which creates diminishing results.
5- Sex gets worse. They watch more porn.
6- You see where I’m going with this.
A hidden enabler of this crisis is the fact that these men never deliver a mind-blowing orgasm to a woman. If you have given a girl multiple orgasms, or made them cum several times, you realize that the reactions are much stronger than that seen in porn. The problem is guys never see the real thing, so they can’t tell it apart from the false.
I swear too god people do not even use common sense when they think about penis sizes. Why is it that men will often compare and analyze the effects of penis size without acknowledging the vaginal counterpart? Is it so unbelievable that vaginas come in different shapes and sizes as well? Guys assume that bigger is better without even thinking about how it would interact with any given vagina. Men seem to think of penis sizes in the sense of absolutes. When in reality there are so many different parts and pieces to match up. Understanding how penis size relates to any sexual encounter is more of a Mr. Potato head scenario then an absolute sense of rules.
There are positions that having a smaller penis actually GIVES you an advantage. In these positions your smaller penis will actually give superior G-spot stimulation.
Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.
Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.
Unfortunately and somewhat ironically there aren’t really any positions where having a larger penis is a distinct advantage. Don’t be too let down because there are some advantages to having a big member. Some positions are somewhat difficult or off limits to some men because of a smaller size, where as a man with a bigger unit can experiment with a wider array of sex positions. There are some mental and psychological benefits that give bigger men an edge.
It is important to realize that there is no iron or ultimate rule when it comes to penis size. Whatever size you are sexual doors open while others close. It is your job to fully utilize the doors that are open to you.
Remember that as far as the physical realm of sex is concerned, you really only have to get good up to a certain point, once you get “good enough” at physical sex your home free and there is little use worrying about it. Once you get “good enough” the only thing that will really better your abilities is mental stimulation. It is this mental stimulation that will allow you to transcend beyond the average male in bed.
Just wanted to chime in and apologize for the lack of updates recently. There’s some good stuff on the way I promise. I did however just have an article get published on Ezinearticles.com. Due to legality reasons I’m unsure if I can straight up copy and paste it here. I can however give you the link. This is definitely a topic I will be expanding upon much, much later.
You can click here for the article.
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-Casual-Sex-Will-Sabotage-Your-Love-Life&id=2841084
Now we’ve talked about the importance of sexual confidence, but we haven’t really given any steps as to how to achieve it. Now becoming more confident in one area of life can often lead one down the rabbit hole of self-improvement in the general sense. I’m going to try to avoid going too deep into that rabbit hole, but to an extent it is unavoidable. To understand confidence we have to understand the opposite of condidence, insecurity and fear. An important step in establishing sexual confidence (or any confidence for that matter) is the ability to identify your fears and insecurities and then confront and conquer them.Often men try and skip creating these strong sexual foundations by looking up some quick sex or foreplay tip, while they can often get a small short term increase in sexual ability; they will still only be experiencing the tip of the iceberg, as well as only giving his partner the tip of the iceberg.
I’ll go over some of the most common male sex fears. I’ll break them down and give steps to defeating them.
1 – Performance Anxiety
Interestingly enough, the number 1 fear that prevents men from being good in bed is the fear of being bad in bed. This can often be a self-fulfilling prophecy. A man fears being bad in bed, he runs through all the bad scenarios that could happen. He sees in his head the sex being awkward, him being clumsy. Is it any surprise that this what he ends up doing? If this is one of your fears here’s a simple exercise for you. Next time you get the bad images occurring in your head, you see yourself messing up, etc; I want you to stop yourself, realize what you’re doing and then change the script. I want you to picture victory instead of failure, dominance over anxiety. Picture you ravaging her with lust, her getting off over and over again. Picture yourself using some of the techniques on this website, then use them!
2- Fear of comparison
Maybe you fear (or know) that you can’t compare sexually to one of her previous sexual partners. Knowing that your woman has had mind-blowing sex with another man can be a rough pill to swallow for some. I’d like to demonstrate a remedy from a personal example. I remember the last time I had trouble with the fear of comparison. I was visiting my girlfriend while she had some of her girlfriends over. They were discussing the hottest men in Hollywood. I knew my girlfriend was a big fan of Johnny Depp. One of the girlfriends brought up Johnny Depp and my girlfriend said “Who would there even be without Johnny Depp?” and then she said “Hugh Jackman, that’s who.” “Great” I thought, now I have to compare myself to Johnny Depp and Hugh Jackman? Then I had a realization, I realized that if she were with Johnny Depp, Hugh Jackman wouldn’t be any less appealing or attractive. You becoming more attractive does not make other men less attractive. The opposite is also true, Hugh Jackman being really attractive, doesn’t make you any less. There is nothing anybody can do about this, except accept this fact and move on. There comes a point where you need to stop being insecure about being compared to great men, and accept your rank amongst them.
3- Penal fears
I’m going to lump together two different fears. I’m also only going to go over them very briefly because they both have their own articles coming very soon. The two fears are fear of premature ejaculation and the fear of having a small penis. Now premature ejaculation can be conquered either mentally or physically, preferably both. But I can guarantee any man who suffers from P.E. that the more they worry about it the more it will destroy them. There are ways to physically fight P.E. there are a variety of exercises one can use to strengthen the P.C. muscle and gain control over ejaculation. However P.E. is much like fear of performance anxiety. When a man sees it in his head over and over again, he fulfills it.
The idea of having a penis that is too small can be absolutely crippling to a man. How else could Extenze stay in business? Because men fearing their penis is too small is a very real and widespread fear. Again, there are mental and physical ways of fighting this fear. There are sexual positions that having a smaller penis gives you an advantage to stimulating a woman. Again, like with the fear of performance anxiety the more you worry about it, the more you picture it beating you up, the more it will. One of the biggest advantages a well-endowed man has over an average sized man is the original sense of sexual confidence. A well-endowed man is excited to use his large member, he becomes to busy thinking about delivering mind blowing pleasure (a self fulfilling prophecy regardless of size) that he does. Where an average man hesitates, the well-endowed man is instilled with confidence. Once you realize that a big member actually enhances sexual performance because of how it influences the man mentally, you can create that confidence regardless of your size, you can create that mental imagery of dominating a woman you can share that excitement for sex, you can eliminate the common fears; and experience the same results regardless of size.
Sex is an extremely powerful facet of human emotion. Like any emotion it all takes place in your brain. Think about that for a second, it all takes place in your brain. When you hit your thumb with a hammer, signals are shot up to your brain and back and then your BRAIN says “OW!”. Sex, while mostly regarded as physical is in fact extremely emotionally and psychologically stimulating. The difference can be seen when you compare masturbating with having sex with a beautiful woman. Both provide that physical stimulation, but only one stimulates the mind.
One cannot become sexual master without understanding and utilizing the power of stimulating the mind during sex. This concept if very intuitive to women but very foreign to men. In fact it is one of the biggest reasons why so many men are clueless to their inadequacy in bed. When one compares a man who can stimulate a woman psychologically during sex to a man who cannot, one can see that they are on completely different playing fields. What’s worst is that the man who is not stimulating the woman mentally and emotionally doesn’t even know that he’s supposed to. This man is one of the 97% of men who thinks he is “the man” in bed but in reality is a dud.
Most men do not realize that is doesn’t matter how fast you pump, how hard you pump, how big your dick is. If you are not stimulating them psychologically then you are barely scratching the surface of pleasure that you could both be experiencing. Not only do most men fail to realize this, but most sex books do as well. Most sex books talk about sex positions, fun and new activities, give plenty of sex and foreplay tips, and offer several different mindsets to use in the bedroom. While all of these are important (in fact they are essential) and will increase your sexual performance, eventually you performance will hit a wall or plateau.
Let’s take man out of the equation for a second and take a look at the sex toy industry. There are piles upon piles of sex toys, from vibrators, dildos, vibrator/dildos, pocket rockets, shockers, eggs, clamps, etc. While these are fun it is not what women crave. Women want sex, good sex; offer them the choice between a mind blowing sexual encounter with a man, or an all night party with every sex toy you can imagine. The man wins hands down. While the man pales in technical skill when compared to what the toys and machines can do, the man can offer something no machine can, psychological stimulation. Technical skill only matters up to a point, once you hit that point no sex or foreplay tip or trick can help you, you must take the leap to start understanding and mastering psychological stimulation.
Stimulating a woman psychologically is not something that typically comes naturally to most men. While stimulating the mind is an art by itself, it does spill into physical sex. For example oral sexerotic massage are other ways to begin bridging the gap between physical and emotional. is more intimate and thus emotionally stimulating than finger play. Teasing and