Posts Tagged ‘sex tips’
While Kegels are no where close to new news. They are still extremely effective. However like any exercise it can be hard to develop a habit or a routine, that consistently builds your PC muscle. I know I had trouble, I tried to do it in the shower, sometime during the day, and before I went to sleep. But I would often forget, or skip one, or just slack off in general. This is procrastination and lack of discipline is something that everybody faces, to some degree. I didn’t really find a solution for this until recently. Until I was bored at a red light. I was at a red light bored out of my mind waiting idly and passively for it to turn green. Then I started doing kegels and I light bulb appeared over my head. What a great way to consistently practice and stregthen your kegel and PC muscle. Everytime I’m at a red light I’m exercising. I’ll do strong and long flexes at one light and then at the next red light I’ll do rapid but weaker flexes. This is my new routine and I have just solved two problems with one solution. If you’re having trouble integrating kegels into your daily life I suggest this method.
Take it easy, and do some kegels.
~ASCW
(P.S. I’m back and expect some damn good sex and foreplay tips coming soon.)
Sexual Confidence – The Multi Orgasmic Man
If a man asked me “What is the one book I can read to greatly boost my sexual pleasure as well as my partner’s?” I would tell them The Multi Orgasmic Man.
I’m currently reading the Multi Orgasmic Man, and so far I have been greatly satisfied with what I’ve read. It’s a great book connecting internal arts (meditation,etc) with sex. It’s essentially sexual martial arts. The book’s focus is more about how to pleasure yourself and keep yourself healthy, rather than pleasuring your partner (Although that is covered). After the first page I thought “Great another book telling me to be Buddha and blow my Tao sexual energy into her G-spot”. Boy was I wrong!!!! After reading their segment on sexual breathing, I now recommend their technique over my own to any of my friends. I know I’m using their technique! Not only does this book teach some of the best ejaculation control methods I’ve ever read, they also teach you how to increase the power of your own orgasms, and how to have as many of them as you want without ejaculating. After using their techniques on enabling your own full body orgasm I tried them out and was blown away. I have never orgasmed that hard without intercourse. I’m very excited to present to you, The Multi Orgasmic Man
I also very much enjoyed the segment on things your female partner can do if you have a small penis. If you think your penis is too small I highly recommend
you read the several posts I wrote on it, as well as get this book.
This book if a perfect in between for the different schools of sex. Most books out there focus entirely on the physical, or entirely on the mental(badly I should mention). Where as this book talks about both, and covers just about everything. If I had to recommend just one book it would be this one. I highly recommend that if you are reading my site that you go pick this book up (you can find it here). I will probably be referencing this book in the posts to come.
You can click here to buy the book.
Just a quick rundown of what you can expect from this book
-How to control your ejaculations
-How to have extremely powerful orgasms
-How to have full body orgasms
-How to have as many orgasms as you want.
-How to use your heightened sense of pleasure to heighten your partner’s.
-How to have more sexual confidence.
-What your woman can do if you have a small penis.
Seriously guys, get the book, it’s worth it. I’ll be talking about it later and you don’t want to be in the dark.
You can click here to buy the book.
Take it easy, and nighttime reading is about to get way more fun for you.
-ASCW
(P.S. It’s important to realize that this book if about the deeper and more complicated sexual issues. While it does have plently of good sex tips and foreplay tips, that is not the books primary purpose.)
Have any questions or comments about The Multi Orgasmic Man, or sex in general? Send them to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com
I’ve posted before about the importance of slowing down during sex, and focusing on enjoying the moment. Silencing the noise within yourself. I found an interesting article I thought you might find interesting.
It’s about how our day and age is ruining our sex lives, and the solution is to take a step back, make time, slow down and focus. Anyways, just wanted to throw this your way.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl-honore/in-praise-of-slow-sex_b_322026.html
Take it easy, and slow down
-ASCW
Today’s article is about sexual confidence, what it is and why most men do not have it.
This is a clip from the movie “Take The Lead” it stars Antonio Banderas as a high school teacher at an underprivileged school, who teaches kids how to tango. There is one scene that I want to talk about.
Skip to 6:32 and watch until 9:26
9:10 – 9:26
“How many of you men would like to handle a woman like that? And ladies how many of you would like to have the power to drive men to this attraction.”
I love this scene and this quote. That dance followed by this quote explains a sexual dynamic so simply that it deserves preaching. Essentially he is saying it is manly to want to dominate, but more importantly to lead, and that to capture and lead their prize is in and of itself, manly. Where on the other side of the coin, it is womanly to have such charms that can inspire a man to this state. It is womanly to lure a man into seducing her, where it is manly to do the actual seduction.
(I think this is true for most people whether they realize it or not. However there will always be exceptions.)
However many men I know have a very hard time with sexually dominating and sexually leading. Frankly I don’t blame them, and I have something to say for every man who feels this way.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
We now live in a society where it is wrong to be manly, and wrong to be womanly. Women are told not to be women and men are told not to be men. Men have been told for their entire life by T.V. and their mothers that women are like princesses, gentle flowers, doing anything “manly” or “animal” is disrespectful to them and considered social heresy. Women are also affected, it’s not their fault, they have been told their entire lives by T.V. and their mothers that they must be sweet, lady like, doing anything “crude” or “sexual” would make them sluts and considered social heresy. Do you see what’s going on here? Men are told do go down path Y (treat women like flowers) and women are told to go down path Z(pretend not to be sexual) when both men and women really want to down the middle path, path x (treating and being treated sexually).
It is easier to harness sexual confidence once you realize that women are literally (internally of course) begging for you to use it, to bring it on to them. If you don’t believe me, try it.
In fact that is your homework assignment. Do something sexual that you were always afraid or not confident enough to try. I’m willing to bet that a majority of you will be more successful than you previously thought possible. Even if you aren’t successful, taking those first steps is the only way to learn and improve.
Take it easy, and be fearless.
-ASCW
Have an interesting sex story, or would like to share the results of your homework assignment? Email them to SexAndForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com or leave a comment.
P.S. I have some good stuff coming up pretty soon though, you can expect it at the end of this week or the beginning of next.
I’m still pretty sick and which is why I haven’t posted that hyped fingering method that I promised you earlier. So I thouht I’d post a quick intro to Dan and Jennifer. They have a sex advice channel on youtube. I think they give very excellent brief content. I say brief since they rarely go deep into the fundamentals of the matter (That’s what I’m for), but they often give good intros or good overviews of a variety of topics. So without further delay here is a video about giving a g-spot orgasm.
Take it easy, Don’t get sick, and GIVE HER A G-SPOT ORGASM!
-ASCW
I’ll be taking a break this weekend, probably not updating until late Sunday or Monday. I’ll soon be posting how to use different fingering methods THAT WORK. This is not your typical “use a come hither motion” kind of advice that is seen everywhere. This is exclusive HARD-HITTING stuff that will get you RESULTS! That will be coming up soon so stay tuned for that.
However what I want to tell you in this post is that we are now accepting letters and submissions. If you have any sex or foreplay related questions send them to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com. I will PERSONALLY review your question and either answer it myself or point you in the right direction to get it answered by somebody else.
So leave me some good stuff over the weekend for me to come back to. Again send me your sex and foreplay questions to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com.
Don’t Screw It Up, and Cheers.
~ASCW~
(P.S. Did I tell you that the email address was SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com? Since that part is kind of important.)
I stumbled upon this video and thought this lady really hit home one of the problems men have when it comes to giving good sex and good foreplay. They cannot turn off their brain, they cannot stop worrying, thinking about this and that. Do give amazing sex you must get LOST in the moment. ABSORBED by the emotion.
She really sums up this idea nicely and quickly.
TURN YOUR BRAIN OFF!!!
Today’s blog post is about vaginal massage. Vaginal massage is one of the MOST UNDERAPPRECIATED methods of amplifying a woman’s orgasm. I bet that nearly every single man reading this blog post doesn’t have any idea how to provide a sensual massage that leads into a vaginal massage. Vaginal massage is the in between point for sexual massage and foreplay. It is one of the first opportunities to properly exhibit one of the foreplay tips of mastery. Normally when men attempt a sexual massage they do not properly melt into the next process, they just jump right into foreplay. THEY ARE CLUELESS! They stumble all over her body thinking they’re giving her the experience of a lifetime and they have NO IDEA that they’re MESSING THE ENTIRE THING UP! Meanwhile she sits there bored pretending to moan so he won’t feel discouraged, since if he feels discouraged then there’s no way he’ll really fuck her properly. Let me go over some of the vital mistakes men make.
1 – Move too quickly. Men often get way to excited during any sexual experience and they rush to the finish. When a man massages he’ll often go from massaging a part of the body and the next thing the girl knows he’s trying to finger her. Bad play gentlemen, take it easy.
2 – Move too slowly. Sometimes men go too far the other way, they shut down their animal brain completely and they spend too much time calculating what to do next. This is partially because they do not know how and when to transfer from one act to the next. Keep in mind how you will move from one position or method to another.
3 – Discriminate their attention. Don’t try and think in terms of “what is the most optimal”. Here’s an example: if they clit is the most sensitive area then it’s the most important. It will give me the most return on my efforts, why would I focus on anything less? This is a HUGE MISTAKE that MEN EVERYWHERE make. Don’t discriminate your attention, think of the whole pie not just the best slice.
Here are some foreplay tips so you don’t screw it up next time.
1- Don’t move too quickly.
2- Don’t just jump to her goodies
3- Take time to create a whole experience. From start to finish.
4- Focus on overall enjoyment than orgasms at first.
Take is easy and don’t screw it up
-ASCW
There are many foreplay tips and techniques that have finally become “mainstream”, the G-Spot, and clitoral stimulation for example. We’ve come along way since the 50’s. In the 50’s G-Spot, clitoral stimulation wouldn’t be discussed and it was pretty much taboo to bring it up; fast forward 50 years later and my little brother in high school knows what both of them are. However there are still some devastatingly powerful techniques to be implemented that the mainstream does not know about. These foreplay tips and techniques are really only commonly referred to in the underground seduction and affiliated communities.
The technique is referred to as “The Deep Spot”. It is much like the G-Spot method in the likes that it refers to a place in the vagina that you are stimulating. Since the DS hasn’t really penetrated the mainstream, the men who utilize it are at an extreme advantage. The DS can create extremely powerful orgasms. I remember the first time I ever stimulated the deep spot, it was one of the most incredible sexual experiences I’ve had to this day. She was bent over and I was lying under her. I was pressing on her deep spot and I immediately got a response. I kept at it, pushing on it and creating a rhythm. Her response kept getting stronger and stronger until she was the point of orgasm. I however didn’t stop there, I kept at it and started to incorporate mental stimulation and began to vocally encourage her. I continued and she started to cum, and cum, and cum. She came so much that her cum was literally going down my arm and pooling on my bed. Needless to say, I became a believer.
The deep spot is located near the very end of the vagina. It is essentially right before the cervix.
The part labeled Cervix (Ouch) is where the pain typically come from during intercourse. When you go barreling straight into the front part of the cervix, it hurts. However although the deep spot is technically a part of the cervix, it is off to the side, which is why it does not hurt.
The actual act of stimulating the Deep Spot is mostly how you would imagine. Stick your finger in and slide it along the front wall (or back if you’re going for the reverse Deep Spot) until you reach the end of her vagina. The texture will change and it there will be a little cave at the end. Others have described the end as a balloon. You want to put your finger against the front wall of the balloon and there will be horizontal rims. The texture will feel strange; it is usually compared to the inside of a Frisbee (surprisingly accurate). Slowly push on that spot, start slow and then increase pace and pressure. It is important to get a good read on how much pressure she can handle so you can adapt your approach.
An advantage to the Deep Spot is that it is much more resilient to stimulation, unlike the clitoris. The clit can be stimulated but usually once orgasm is achieved the clit is too sensitive to stimulate. Not so with the Deep Spot. Also I strongly recommend the use of lube when using this technique. The Deep Spot is very sensitive and you do not want to scratch or damage it in anyway. If you do not have lube then I suggest you purchase Astroglide, it is the number choice of lube for any man who knows what he’s doing in bed. You can check out Astroglide by clicking here.
BIG MEN HAVE NO FEAR! THERE ARE SEX AND FORELAY TIPS FOR YOU!
I’m going to give some attention to the other side of the coin. It’s not fair for me to teach men with small penises how to properly use theirs and just ignore the big guys. If you’ve been reading I gave some great advice, and showed how men with smaller penises could use that size to their advantage and pleasure women in ways a bigger penis cannot. I do not want to ignore the other guys. While a big penis doesn’t equate to better love making, like a small penis it has advantages and disadvantages the other size does not have. So here are some sex tips for the big man.
WHAT A SMALL MAN CANNOT DO, A BIG MAN CAN.
Being a man on the smaller side of average, I’d like to give present some personal woes to demonstrate some advantages the big man has. While I obviously deliver top-notch sex, there are some positions that are simply off limits to me because of my size. For example it is nearly impossible for me to have sex while standing up. I just don’t have enough dick to really get in there from that angle. When I do get in there it is fairly awkward and mostly unsatisfying. There are plenty of positions that I just simply cannot pull off due to my size. However the positions I cannot do, bigger men can. While this position is impossible for me, a longer man can pull it off with ease.
THE PROBLEM
However having a big member isn’t always fun and games. Often women can experience discomfort to severe pain if they’re with a man who is “too big”. The physical source of the pain is the hitting of the cervix. The cervix is where the uterus joins the top of the vagina. (Technical mumbo jumbo here). Obviously during sex we stop thinking logically and become immersed in our emotions (hopefully). It is hard for a man to be focused on not hitting the cervix while getting lost in sex.
THE SOLUTION
The more foreplay the better, it is even more important to get her properly warmed up when you’re penis is large. Also think ahead, while you cannot reliably stop yourself just before hitting the cervix, you can use positions that make hitting the cervix more difficult. Earlier we discussed positions that give more penetration, and how angling the vagina upwards and towards you provides extra penetration. The opposite is also true, if you’re well endowed you can angle the vagina away from you for a little less penetration. That way you can go buck wild without hitting her cervix.
HERE ARE SOME POSITIONS YOU SHOULD TRY IF YOU ARE WELL ENDOWED!
The difference between this style of doggy and others is the angle of penetration. This angle should allow you to go all out with less chance of hurting her.
Again because her vagina is angled away from you, there is less chance of going too far.
These positions are good starting points, I encourage you to experiment and try them out. Again, I STRONGLY recommend getting a sex position book, like the Kama Sutra. Even if you are not actively interested in performing exotic sexual positions; they are incredibly useful for reference they give more options, better instruction, and more insight to sexual positions. Click here for my recommendation.