Posts Tagged ‘NLP’
Now I’ve already written about how essential it is to understand and be able to stimulate a woman emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. However I haven’t really gone into any detail as how to actually do that. Or how to use it as a sex or foreplay tip. One of the secrets lies within this post, I say secret but it is actually ironically obvious. The secret is, talk to her. Think about it. how do you connect with anyone whether it is emotional or not? Speech. Humans are wired to have emotional responses to the noises and words that we hear; if you get yelled at you have an emotional response, if someone is crying on your shoulder you have an emotional response. I can make you mad by saying things that would make you mad, I can make you happy by saying things that would make you happy. Saying things that turn women on is no different. Words are very effective; why do you think year after year romance novels fly off the shelf into the hands of women? Because they crave that emotional and psychological stimulation. Your words can be like a romance novel, you just need to understand the language and the mechanics.
Now obviously if you wanted to make somebody angry you couldn’t walk up to them and say “get really angry with me!” you would have to say things that trigger that emotion, say something that causes them to go into an angry state of mind. The same is also true for emotional arousal, you can’t go up to a woman and say “get really turned on by me.” You have to say things to make them aroused; you have to put them in a state of arousal. If this is a new concept to you then I don’t want you to try and put them in a state of arousal with your words alone just quite yet. It is much easier to learn this concept by using it in action when you and your partner are getting intimate. While you touch her, kiss her, etc she is going into a state of arousal, which can act as a springboard for you to psychologically stimulate her. When the girl is becoming aroused you just need to vocally, get her to acknowledge and focus on those feelings. An example would be when you’re touching you say something along the lines of
“You like it when I touch you like that? I know you do, you like the feeling of (describe whatever you’re doing to her) you like that feeling as I (whatever you’re doing) you. And as I do this (amp the intensity of whatever you’re doing) you can feel that feeling getting stronger, and stronger, and stronger, and stronger, as you feel it melt all throughout your body.” This is a form of NLP, neuro-linguistic programming it is essentially understanding how the brain responds to and breaks down language.
Here is a live example of the father of seduction Ross Jefferies using NLP to turn a woman on.
This concept of language is typically very foreign to men. But it is imperative that you learn to utilize your words in this manner. Now of course your frame of mind and vocal projection are very important. Notice how Ross speaks deeply, and most importantly slowly. He speaks slowly to build anticipating and to allow the woman to go deep into her emotions and to be able to absorb everything he is saying to the fullest. That is a basic example of one way to turn a woman on psychologically, it can be used during sex or foreplay try it out tonight, and share your results! If you want to learn more about NLP (I highly recommend it) then here is an excellent book to teach you what NLP is as well as give you a good insight and understanding of NLP’s practical utilizations. Click here to check it out.
Sex is an extremely powerful facet of human emotion. Like any emotion it all takes place in your brain. Think about that for a second, it all takes place in your brain. When you hit your thumb with a hammer, signals are shot up to your brain and back and then your BRAIN says “OW!”. Sex, while mostly regarded as physical is in fact extremely emotionally and psychologically stimulating. The difference can be seen when you compare masturbating with having sex with a beautiful woman. Both provide that physical stimulation, but only one stimulates the mind.
One cannot become sexual master without understanding and utilizing the power of stimulating the mind during sex. This concept if very intuitive to women but very foreign to men. In fact it is one of the biggest reasons why so many men are clueless to their inadequacy in bed. When one compares a man who can stimulate a woman psychologically during sex to a man who cannot, one can see that they are on completely different playing fields. What’s worst is that the man who is not stimulating the woman mentally and emotionally doesn’t even know that he’s supposed to. This man is one of the 97% of men who thinks he is “the man” in bed but in reality is a dud.
Most men do not realize that is doesn’t matter how fast you pump, how hard you pump, how big your dick is. If you are not stimulating them psychologically then you are barely scratching the surface of pleasure that you could both be experiencing. Not only do most men fail to realize this, but most sex books do as well. Most sex books talk about sex positions, fun and new activities, give plenty of sex and foreplay tips, and offer several different mindsets to use in the bedroom. While all of these are important (in fact they are essential) and will increase your sexual performance, eventually you performance will hit a wall or plateau.
Let’s take man out of the equation for a second and take a look at the sex toy industry. There are piles upon piles of sex toys, from vibrators, dildos, vibrator/dildos, pocket rockets, shockers, eggs, clamps, etc. While these are fun it is not what women crave. Women want sex, good sex; offer them the choice between a mind blowing sexual encounter with a man, or an all night party with every sex toy you can imagine. The man wins hands down. While the man pales in technical skill when compared to what the toys and machines can do, the man can offer something no machine can, psychological stimulation. Technical skill only matters up to a point, once you hit that point no sex or foreplay tip or trick can help you, you must take the leap to start understanding and mastering psychological stimulation.
Stimulating a woman psychologically is not something that typically comes naturally to most men. While stimulating the mind is an art by itself, it does spill into physical sex. For example oral sexerotic massage are other ways to begin bridging the gap between physical and emotional. is more intimate and thus emotionally stimulating than finger play. Teasing and