Today’s article is about sexual confidence, what it is and why most men do not have it.
This is a clip from the movie “Take The Lead” it stars Antonio Banderas as a high school teacher at an underprivileged school, who teaches kids how to tango. There is one scene that I want to talk about.
Skip to 6:32 and watch until 9:26
9:10 – 9:26
“How many of you men would like to handle a woman like that? And ladies how many of you would like to have the power to drive men to this attraction.”
I love this scene and this quote. That dance followed by this quote explains a sexual dynamic so simply that it deserves preaching. Essentially he is saying it is manly to want to dominate, but more importantly to lead, and that to capture and lead their prize is in and of itself, manly. Where on the other side of the coin, it is womanly to have such charms that can inspire a man to this state. It is womanly to lure a man into seducing her, where it is manly to do the actual seduction.
(I think this is true for most people whether they realize it or not. However there will always be exceptions.)
However many men I know have a very hard time with sexually dominating and sexually leading. Frankly I don’t blame them, and I have something to say for every man who feels this way.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
We now live in a society where it is wrong to be manly, and wrong to be womanly. Women are told not to be women and men are told not to be men. Men have been told for their entire life by T.V. and their mothers that women are like princesses, gentle flowers, doing anything “manly” or “animal” is disrespectful to them and considered social heresy. Women are also affected, it’s not their fault, they have been told their entire lives by T.V. and their mothers that they must be sweet, lady like, doing anything “crude” or “sexual” would make them sluts and considered social heresy. Do you see what’s going on here? Men are told do go down path Y (treat women like flowers) and women are told to go down path Z(pretend not to be sexual) when both men and women really want to down the middle path, path x (treating and being treated sexually).
It is easier to harness sexual confidence once you realize that women are literally (internally of course) begging for you to use it, to bring it on to them. If you don’t believe me, try it.
In fact that is your homework assignment. Do something sexual that you were always afraid or not confident enough to try. I’m willing to bet that a majority of you will be more successful than you previously thought possible. Even if you aren’t successful, taking those first steps is the only way to learn and improve.
Take it easy, and be fearless.
-ASCW
Have an interesting sex story, or would like to share the results of your homework assignment? Email them to SexAndForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com or leave a comment.
P.S. I have some good stuff coming up pretty soon though, you can expect it at the end of this week or the beginning of next.
