Every man can share one experience in regards to women. I believe every man has seen a smoking hot girl with some ugly, fat man and thought, “How the hell did that happen?” Many guys are puzzled at this phenomenon; the reason for their bewilderment is the fact that guys are so attracted and lured in by the external that it is hard for them to imagine that women aren’t wired the same way. In reality women aren’t nearly attracted to external as men, they are more attracted to confidence, assertiveness, humor, self-worth all of which are internal qualities. This blog does not exist to teach you how to pick up women; but these rules apply to sex as much as they do seduction. (for more info on seduction visit the resources section)
I was recently spending time with one of my closest female friends. She was telling me about the things her new boyfriend did in bed. None of them were positive. Now the sex wasn’t “bad” per-se but it definitely wasn’t good, and she definitely wasn’t having orgasms. We even joked about me hiding under the bed so I could pop out and give him pointers (poor guy). I’ll give you a rundown on some of his mistakes.
- Would ask logical questions during sex. “How is that?”
- Question himself and her during sex. “Do you actually like having sex with me?”
- Generally being unconfident
All of these things scream “I am not confident” “I am not worthy.” “I am internally weak.” And are very big turn offs to women. Had he been able to turn off his thoughts, strip himself of his insecurities and just enjoyed the moment unconditionally, the sex would have increased by 100%. Now last week we talked about how men don’t value the emotional and mental aspect of sex in regards to women. Today I want to talk about how we don’t take care of ourselves mentally and emotionally in regards to sex. Because men have an obsession and focus on the external, they don’t even pause to look at how their lack of internal game is affecting their sex lives. Even worse, they don’t even know that they are supposed to! Most men are completely clueless to the fact that they even have “internal game” let alone know what to do with it or how to fix it. It doesn’t matter how long you can go, what kind of crazy sex position you can pull off, if you have a weak and insecure frame of mind the sex will be bad. 90% of what we say comes from our body language, and I’m willing to bet that nearly the entire 95% of men who are mediocre or worse in bed have mediocre or worse sexual body language. They are worried or thinking about what she will think if they do this or that? This is one of the root causes of poor sexual body language. It comes from fear, and insecurity. Insecurity leads to questioning themselves, which leads to fear and nervousness. Woman want to be fucked by a man who isn’t afraid to show his animal lust and who won’t be afraid theirs, not a boywho questions himself every step of the way. One of the keys to obtaining good sexual body language is learning how to turn off conscious thought and exist only in the feeling of the moment, to free yourself from your inhibitions, and experience every sexual sensation to the fullest.
I’d like for you to consciously think about what internal and mental processes occur within you during sex. Think about how this could affect your sexual body language. Are your thoughts causing you to freeze up, and act with fear? Or do your thoughts generate such sexual excitement that you feel like you can barely hold yourself back? We will be going into this topic further shortly so I’d like for you to analyze yourself so you can take full advantage of our next article.
