Enjoy! And take it easy.

~ASCW~

(P.S. If you try those Foreplay Tips, let me know how it goes my emailing my at sexandforeplaytipsformen@gmail.com)

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Mixing it up and having some variety is essential to keeping a sexual relationship healthy and happy. Too much of the same because stale any good thing gets boring after too much repetition. Now that you know that sexual relationships require variety; I thought I’d give you some sexual ammunition to make that happen.

If you have some of your own ideas on how to spice things up, run with it. But for those of you who are less creative here are some easy foreplay tipsideas that can turn up the heat.

Oral Sex: Most men might feel uncomfortable when thinking about “going down” on her. You may be sexually conservative and prefer not to venture outside of kissing and coddling. If you are one of these people I highly encourage to take a step out of your comfort zone. I’d recommend reading some articles and literature on cunnilingus. Expect one from me shortly.

Anal Play:  Anal foreplay typically doesn’t involve typically penetration but rather outside stimulation, like rubbing, tickling, and possibly licking. That being said: this is a form of foreplay that I can understand being a little uncomfortable. Society has long deemed the anus dirty, forbidden, taboo. But society can’t change the fact that the anus contains a dense concentration of nerve endings. That concentration of nerve endings makes anal play a double-edged sword. While the potential for pleasure is very high, so is the potential for pain. If you plan on doing anal play, do your research and use lube liberally.

Fantasy & Role Play: Fantasies are common. You have them. She has them. Why not act them out? Acting our fantasies by role-playing is a very safe way to sexually express ourselves, along with having some fun. Role-playing pretending to be another role (nurse, school girl, pool boy), is the core of fantasy. It is easier to do things we wouldn’t normally do once we are no longer “ourselves”. Role-playing allows us to break these boundaries and really explore our partner and ourselves. If you need anything to get the creative juices flowing or just a nudge in the right direction I suggest picking up a deck of role playing cards.

Bondage & Domination: This often provokes bad imagery of over the top whips, chains, masks, and leather. But it doesn’t have too. Bondage and domination can be as simple and as fun. It can be something as simple as tying her hands behind her back, using handcuffs, or blindfolding her (or yourself). Don’t make it a scary thing if you don’t have too. Spank her with an object, get some handcuffs, and try blindfolding her. This is all technically bondage and domination, but less intimidating to try. A book you may want to considering buying would be this guide to bondage.

Sexy Texts: Foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. In this day and age you can start cranking the sexual heat hours before an encounter with the touch of a few buttons. Hinting and leading to a sexual encounter to happen in the future is a good way to get her ready and in the mood. These texts can vary from extremity, whether it is a subtle “I’ve got plans for you tonight” or a blunt “When you come over I’m throwing you on the couch and fucking your brains out.” The sky is the limits when it comes to sexy texts.

That was easy, just by incorporating one of these foreplay tips; you have increased your sexual game and can have better sex with your partner.

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Take it easy, and do some kegels.

~ASCW

(P.S. I’m back and expect some damn good sex and foreplay tips coming soon.)

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It’s about how our day and age is ruining our sex lives, and the solution is to take a step back, make time, slow down and focus. Anyways, just wanted to throw this your way.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl-honore/in-praise-of-slow-sex_b_322026.html

Take it easy, and slow down

-ASCW

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9:10 – 9:26
“How many of you men would like to handle a woman like that? And ladies how many of you would like to have the power to drive men to this attraction.”

I love this scene and this quote. That dance followed by this quote explains a sexual dynamic so simply that it deserves preaching. Essentially he is saying it is manly to want to dominate, but more importantly to lead, and that to capture and lead their prize is in and of itself, manly. Where on the other side of the coin, it is womanly to have such charms that can inspire a man to this state. It is womanly to lure a man into seducing her, where it is manly to do the actual seduction.
(I think this is true for most people whether they realize it or not. However there will always be exceptions.)

However many men I know have a very hard time with sexually dominating and sexually leading. Frankly I don’t blame them, and I have something to say for every man who feels this way.

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!

We now live in a society where it is wrong to be manly, and wrong to be womanly. Women are told not to be women and men are told not to be men. Men have been told for their entire life by T.V. and their mothers that women are like princesses, gentle flowers, doing anything “manly” or “animal” is disrespectful to them and considered social heresy. Women are also affected, it’s not their fault, they have been told their entire lives by T.V. and their mothers that they must be sweet, lady like, doing anything “crude” or “sexual” would make them sluts and considered social heresy. Do you see what’s going on here? Men are told do go down path Y (treat women like flowers) and women are told to go down path Z(pretend not to be sexual) when both men and women really want to down the middle path, path x (treating and being treated sexually).

It is easier to harness sexual confidence once you realize that women are literally (internally of course) begging for you to use it, to bring it on to them. If you don’t believe me, try it.

In fact that is your homework assignment. Do something sexual that you were always afraid or not confident enough to try. I’m willing to bet that a majority of you will be more successful than you previously thought possible. Even if you aren’t successful, taking those first steps is the only way to learn and improve.

Take it easy, and be fearless.

-ASCW

Have an interesting sex story, or would like to share the results of your homework assignment? Email them to SexAndForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com or leave a comment.

P.S. I have some good stuff coming up pretty soon though, you can expect it at the end of this week or the beginning of next.

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If there is any specific thing about sex you want to know about, or you’d like to see post on something you’re having specific difficulty with then email me at SexandForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com

I’ll be taking suggestions and will even take Q&A.

Choose what you want to read about

SexandForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com

Take it easy and send in your questions.

-ASCW

Here’s a foreplay tip for men with smaller hands. It took me a while to figure out how to use my hands in a way that would overcome their small size. But I’ve figured out a few tricks. I’ve already written about the thumb method (thumb foreplay tip found here), but today I’d like to explain how to stimulate the deep spot if your fingers aren’t naturally long enough to reach back far enough.  In order to do this technique you have to

1)      Get her really wet, this means you don’t just dive in there and start poking. You need to do A LOT, and I mean a lot of buildup before you can unleash this.

2)      Once you’ve gotten her REALLY wet, then you should apply lube to your middle finger, and your index finger. Yes lube even though you’ve done all of this build up. (Seriously if you haven’t gotten your supply ofAstroglide, act now because seriously, it is a must. Click here to open in a new tab, then read the rest of this article, and then buy some Astroglide.)

3)      Make sure your fingernails are WELL clipped.

Once she’s primed and ready. Insert your middle and index finger inside of her. Reach in as far as you can. Once you can’t get any further use your index finer to push against her front vaginal wall. You want to push her wall down as if you were trying to stretch it towards her vaginal opening. This will essentially “scrunch” her vagina, bringing her cervix closer to your finger. Since you’ve essentially shortened her vagina you should be able to hit her deep spot with your middle finger. Enjoy making her cum, because I already know she will.

Take it easy, and seriously go buy some Astroglide

-ASCW

(P.S. If you prefer using your middle and ring finger, I find it easier to push the front wall with your middle finger and use your ring finger to stimulate. Mix, match, use whatever works for you.)

(P.P.S. Seriously buy some Astroglide if you haven’t already.)

I’m going to address the real advantage to having a big penis. Yes there is one very distinct advantage to having a big cock, and no it is not related to any myth of “more stimulation”. The advantage to having a big dick is very subtle, because it is entirely mental. Mentally, guys with bigger penises are at an advantage over their smaller companions. To demonstrate this we will look at ManA and ManB. ManA has a big cock ManB has a little one.

They both grow up and live their lives and at some point ManA realized that his penis is big, and ManB realizes that his penis is small. ManA is more sexually confident because of his member where ManB is nervous that he isn’t big enough. Now this cycle wheels its way around probably hundreds of times before either of these two men have sex. ManA gets more and more excited about his big dick, where as ManB gets more and more nervous.

Now lets fast-forward to the first time these men have sex. This is the day that ManA has waited for, he finally gets to use his mega-drill, he is more confident, more dominant; after all what does he have to lose? He’s got a big dick. The sexual experience is good or at least over time becomes good. A cycle is started. He has a big dick and is confident and excited that it will deliver. So he does, he credits his dick and becomes more confident leading to better results.

Now lets look at ManB. He knows his penis is small, and he is worried that it won’t be big enough to satisfy his partner. Then the day finally comes, the day he has waited for but also feared. Will she laugh at him? Is his relationship doomed because of his small penis? How will he compare to others? Thoughts of fear run through his head. He is timid and nervous in bed, exudes no confidence. Because of this the experience isn’t good. He blames his small dick, and fears that he won’t ever be able to overcome, that because of his dick he won’t be able to deliver like the other men. So he doesn’t, he blames his little wiener and his confidence gets kicked even lower. The same cycle happens for ManB, only the other way.

Once you realize that it is entirely mental, you are no longer bound by these rules. You gain the freedom to choose what kind of lover you’ll be. You can choose to give amazing sex no matter how big you are. You can choose to be the best lover she’s ever had. All you need to do is learn more, harness your skills. Whether that means reading this blog, or buying some good sex books. You have the choice to become the man you want to be in bed.

If you’re looking for a sex guide then click here.

If you want to know how to overcome your small penis, then click here.

If you’re looking for general sex and foreplay tips then click here.

Or if you have a specific question for me, feel free to email me at SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com

Take it easy, and take her down.

-ASCW

Finally! I am feeling better, and can function like a regular human. First I want to apologize for the lack of updates last week. I talked about the new technique I was about to unleash then got sick and couldn’t write it up! But that was then, this is now. I’ve got a story for you!

“Why do I think this is one of the most important things I’ve learned in a long time?”

That’s what a friend of mine said as I told him the technique absent-mindedly on the bus.

I’m actually quite puzzled. Whenever I share this technique with guys (the perks of knowing me in person) they’re always pretty impressed. Here’s what puzzles me. This technique is SO OBVIOUS that you cannot realize it is SO OBVIOUS until somebody points it out to you. (Kind of like that island in Pirates of the Caribbean 1)

So before I unleash this foreplay tip I want you to look at your hand.

If your hand is like most other human hands it looks like this.

Now measure your thumb, and then measure your middle finger.

My measurements come out the following (please excuse my little girly hands)

Thumb = 2.7 inches

Middle Finger  = 3.1 inches.

The difference isn’t even half of an inch.

Obviously your measurements won’t be exactly like mine. I just want you to notice how much longer your thumb is then you probably realized.  Now we’re going to go a little bit deeper. And yes this is important for the foreplay tip.

Now I want you to put out your middle finger, as if you were about to finger a girl. You’ll notice that the first digits of your other two fingers essentially clog the base of your middle finger, rendering that part of your finger unusable.

 When you measure the first digit of your middle finger and then subtract that from the overall length of your middle finger, you’ll get your UFL (Usable Finger Length).

For example my middle finger is 3.1 inches, and the first digit is 1 inch. 3.1 – 1 = 2.1 meaning that I have 2.1 inches that can actually be utilized to finger a girl.

My thumb length = 2.7 inches

My MF UFL = 2.1 inches

So the thumb is actually often better for fingering women.

Now I want to talk about angles. In most angles the UFL of the thumb is usually better than the UFL of your middle finger. But there are angles where the Thumb’s UFL becomes longer than the thumbs length.

If you position your girl in the doggy style position, you can finger her with your thumb very effectively. Your thumb will essentially go straight into her G-spot and will be at a great angle for stimulating it. You have more mobility and can deliver more pressure on the G-spot with your thumb than your finger.  Also since the wall of your hand that essentially the base of your thumb, is spongy and can be pushed back. This means that you can finger her even deeper. The UFL of your thumb when using this technique becomes longer than the length of your thumb.

Another advantage to using your thumb is the fact that you have the rest of your fingers to stimulate her clitoris. Giving a woman a clitoral orgasm is a pretty powerful thing; giving a woman a G-spot orgasm is also a very powerful thing. Give her both at the same time and I can assure you she won’t ever forget about you.

The thumb is not the only hyper effective way to finger a girl. I’ll go over other techniques later this week.

Take it easy, and stick your thumb in it.

-ASCW