Archive for the ‘Foreplay Tips.’ Category
Here’s a quick little video about how stimulating the clit with your hands and mouth. The music’s a little ridiculous but the content is pretty solid. These are some good foreplay tips to add to your weaponry.
Enjoy! And take it easy.
~ASCW~
(P.S. If you try those Foreplay Tips, let me know how it goes my emailing my at sexandforeplaytipsformen@gmail.com)
Mixing it up and having some variety is essential to keeping a sexual relationship healthy and happy. Too much of the same because stale any good thing gets boring after too much repetition. Now that you know that sexual relationships require variety; I thought I’d give you some sexual ammunition to make that happen.
If you have some of your own ideas on how to spice things up, run with it. But for those of you who are less creative here are some easy foreplay tipsideas that can turn up the heat.
Oral Sex: Most men might feel uncomfortable when thinking about “going down” on her. You may be sexually conservative and prefer not to venture outside of kissing and coddling. If you are one of these people I highly encourage to take a step out of your comfort zone. I’d recommend reading some articles and literature on cunnilingus. Expect one from me shortly.
Anal Play: Anal foreplay typically doesn’t involve typically penetration but rather outside stimulation, like rubbing, tickling, and possibly licking. That being said: this is a form of foreplay that I can understand being a little uncomfortable. Society has long deemed the anus dirty, forbidden, taboo. But society can’t change the fact that the anus contains a dense concentration of nerve endings. That concentration of nerve endings makes anal play a double-edged sword. While the potential for pleasure is very high, so is the potential for pain. If you plan on doing anal play, do your research and use lube liberally.
Fantasy & Role Play: Fantasies are common. You have them. She has them. Why not act them out? Acting our fantasies by role-playing is a very safe way to sexually express ourselves, along with having some fun. Role-playing pretending to be another role (nurse, school girl, pool boy), is the core of fantasy. It is easier to do things we wouldn’t normally do once we are no longer “ourselves”. Role-playing allows us to break these boundaries and really explore our partner and ourselves. If you need anything to get the creative juices flowing or just a nudge in the right direction I suggest picking up a deck of role playing cards.
Bondage & Domination: This often provokes bad imagery of over the top whips, chains, masks, and leather. But it doesn’t have too. Bondage and domination can be as simple and as fun. It can be something as simple as tying her hands behind her back, using handcuffs, or blindfolding her (or yourself). Don’t make it a scary thing if you don’t have too. Spank her with an object, get some handcuffs, and try blindfolding her. This is all technically bondage and domination, but less intimidating to try. A book you may want to considering buying would be this guide to bondage.
Sexy Texts: Foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. In this day and age you can start cranking the sexual heat hours before an encounter with the touch of a few buttons. Hinting and leading to a sexual encounter to happen in the future is a good way to get her ready and in the mood. These texts can vary from extremity, whether it is a subtle “I’ve got plans for you tonight” or a blunt “When you come over I’m throwing you on the couch and fucking your brains out.” The sky is the limits when it comes to sexy texts.
That was easy, just by incorporating one of these foreplay tips; you have increased your sexual game and can have better sex with your partner.
While Kegels are no where close to new news. They are still extremely effective. However like any exercise it can be hard to develop a habit or a routine, that consistently builds your PC muscle. I know I had trouble, I tried to do it in the shower, sometime during the day, and before I went to sleep. But I would often forget, or skip one, or just slack off in general. This is procrastination and lack of discipline is something that everybody faces, to some degree. I didn’t really find a solution for this until recently. Until I was bored at a red light. I was at a red light bored out of my mind waiting idly and passively for it to turn green. Then I started doing kegels and I light bulb appeared over my head. What a great way to consistently practice and stregthen your kegel and PC muscle. Everytime I’m at a red light I’m exercising. I’ll do strong and long flexes at one light and then at the next red light I’ll do rapid but weaker flexes. This is my new routine and I have just solved two problems with one solution. If you’re having trouble integrating kegels into your daily life I suggest this method.
Take it easy, and do some kegels.
~ASCW
(P.S. I’m back and expect some damn good sex and foreplay tips coming soon.)
Sexual Confidence – The Multi Orgasmic Man
If a man asked me “What is the one book I can read to greatly boost my sexual pleasure as well as my partner’s?” I would tell them The Multi Orgasmic Man.
I’m currently reading the Multi Orgasmic Man, and so far I have been greatly satisfied with what I’ve read. It’s a great book connecting internal arts (meditation,etc) with sex. It’s essentially sexual martial arts. The book’s focus is more about how to pleasure yourself and keep yourself healthy, rather than pleasuring your partner (Although that is covered). After the first page I thought “Great another book telling me to be Buddha and blow my Tao sexual energy into her G-spot”. Boy was I wrong!!!! After reading their segment on sexual breathing, I now recommend their technique over my own to any of my friends. I know I’m using their technique! Not only does this book teach some of the best ejaculation control methods I’ve ever read, they also teach you how to increase the power of your own orgasms, and how to have as many of them as you want without ejaculating. After using their techniques on enabling your own full body orgasm I tried them out and was blown away. I have never orgasmed that hard without intercourse. I’m very excited to present to you, The Multi Orgasmic Man
I also very much enjoyed the segment on things your female partner can do if you have a small penis. If you think your penis is too small I highly recommend
you read the several posts I wrote on it, as well as get this book.
This book if a perfect in between for the different schools of sex. Most books out there focus entirely on the physical, or entirely on the mental(badly I should mention). Where as this book talks about both, and covers just about everything. If I had to recommend just one book it would be this one. I highly recommend that if you are reading my site that you go pick this book up (you can find it here). I will probably be referencing this book in the posts to come.
You can click here to buy the book.
Just a quick rundown of what you can expect from this book
-How to control your ejaculations
-How to have extremely powerful orgasms
-How to have full body orgasms
-How to have as many orgasms as you want.
-How to use your heightened sense of pleasure to heighten your partner’s.
-How to have more sexual confidence.
-What your woman can do if you have a small penis.
Seriously guys, get the book, it’s worth it. I’ll be talking about it later and you don’t want to be in the dark.
You can click here to buy the book.
Take it easy, and nighttime reading is about to get way more fun for you.
-ASCW
(P.S. It’s important to realize that this book if about the deeper and more complicated sexual issues. While it does have plently of good sex tips and foreplay tips, that is not the books primary purpose.)
Have any questions or comments about The Multi Orgasmic Man, or sex in general? Send them to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com
I’ve posted before about the importance of slowing down during sex, and focusing on enjoying the moment. Silencing the noise within yourself. I found an interesting article I thought you might find interesting.
It’s about how our day and age is ruining our sex lives, and the solution is to take a step back, make time, slow down and focus. Anyways, just wanted to throw this your way.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl-honore/in-praise-of-slow-sex_b_322026.html
Take it easy, and slow down
-ASCW
Here’s a foreplay tip for men with smaller hands. It took me a while to figure out how to use my hands in a way that would overcome their small size. But I’ve figured out a few tricks. I’ve already written about the thumb method (thumb foreplay tip found here), but today I’d like to explain how to stimulate the deep spot if your fingers aren’t naturally long enough to reach back far enough. In order to do this technique you have to
1) Get her really wet, this means you don’t just dive in there and start poking. You need to do A LOT, and I mean a lot of buildup before you can unleash this.
2) Once you’ve gotten her REALLY wet, then you should apply lube to your middle finger, and your index finger. Yes lube even though you’ve done all of this build up. (Seriously if you haven’t gotten your supply ofAstroglide, act now because seriously, it is a must. Click here to open in a new tab, then read the rest of this article, and then buy some Astroglide.)
3) Make sure your fingernails are WELL clipped.
Once she’s primed and ready. Insert your middle and index finger inside of her. Reach in as far as you can. Once you can’t get any further use your index finer to push against her front vaginal wall. You want to push her wall down as if you were trying to stretch it towards her vaginal opening. This will essentially “scrunch” her vagina, bringing her cervix closer to your finger. Since you’ve essentially shortened her vagina you should be able to hit her deep spot with your middle finger. Enjoy making her cum, because I already know she will.
Take it easy, and seriously go buy some Astroglide
-ASCW
(P.S. If you prefer using your middle and ring finger, I find it easier to push the front wall with your middle finger and use your ring finger to stimulate. Mix, match, use whatever works for you.)
(P.P.S. Seriously buy some Astroglide if you haven’t already.)
Finally! I am feeling better, and can function like a regular human. First I want to apologize for the lack of updates last week. I talked about the new technique I was about to unleash then got sick and couldn’t write it up! But that was then, this is now. I’ve got a story for you!
“Why do I think this is one of the most important things I’ve learned in a long time?”
That’s what a friend of mine said as I told him the technique absent-mindedly on the bus.
I’m actually quite puzzled. Whenever I share this technique with guys (the perks of knowing me in person) they’re always pretty impressed. Here’s what puzzles me. This technique is SO OBVIOUS that you cannot realize it is SO OBVIOUS until somebody points it out to you. (Kind of like that island in Pirates of the Caribbean 1)
So before I unleash this foreplay tip I want you to look at your hand.
If your hand is like most other human hands it looks like this.
Now measure your thumb, and then measure your middle finger.
My measurements come out the following (please excuse my little girly hands)
Thumb = 2.7 inches
Middle Finger = 3.1 inches.
The difference isn’t even half of an inch.
Obviously your measurements won’t be exactly like mine. I just want you to notice how much longer your thumb is then you probably realized. Now we’re going to go a little bit deeper. And yes this is important for the foreplay tip.
Now I want you to put out your middle finger, as if you were about to finger a girl. You’ll notice that the first digits of your other two fingers essentially clog the base of your middle finger, rendering that part of your finger unusable.
When you measure the first digit of your middle finger and then subtract that from the overall length of your middle finger, you’ll get your UFL (Usable Finger Length).
For example my middle finger is 3.1 inches, and the first digit is 1 inch. 3.1 – 1 = 2.1 meaning that I have 2.1 inches that can actually be utilized to finger a girl.
My thumb length = 2.7 inches
My MF UFL = 2.1 inches
So the thumb is actually often better for fingering women.
Now I want to talk about angles. In most angles the UFL of the thumb is usually better than the UFL of your middle finger. But there are angles where the Thumb’s UFL becomes longer than the thumbs length.
If you position your girl in the doggy style position, you can finger her with your thumb very effectively. Your thumb will essentially go straight into her G-spot and will be at a great angle for stimulating it. You have more mobility and can deliver more pressure on the G-spot with your thumb than your finger. Also since the wall of your hand that essentially the base of your thumb, is spongy and can be pushed back. This means that you can finger her even deeper. The UFL of your thumb when using this technique becomes longer than the length of your thumb.
Another advantage to using your thumb is the fact that you have the rest of your fingers to stimulate her clitoris. Giving a woman a clitoral orgasm is a pretty powerful thing; giving a woman a G-spot orgasm is also a very powerful thing. Give her both at the same time and I can assure you she won’t ever forget about you.
The thumb is not the only hyper effective way to finger a girl. I’ll go over other techniques later this week.
Take it easy, and stick your thumb in it.
-ASCW
I’m still pretty sick and which is why I haven’t posted that hyped fingering method that I promised you earlier. So I thouht I’d post a quick intro to Dan and Jennifer. They have a sex advice channel on youtube. I think they give very excellent brief content. I say brief since they rarely go deep into the fundamentals of the matter (That’s what I’m for), but they often give good intros or good overviews of a variety of topics. So without further delay here is a video about giving a g-spot orgasm.
Take it easy, Don’t get sick, and GIVE HER A G-SPOT ORGASM!
-ASCW
So I’ve been under the weather lately, which is my excuse for the lack of updates. However I don’t want to just leave you high and dry. So are some effective videos explaining the what how and why of kegel exercises. If performed properly and consistently kegel exercises will increase your sexual stamina. A pretty good sex tip or foreplay tip if you ask me.
This gives an overview of how kegels work.
This video is more indepth and gives some more advanced exercises for men.
This is just to hold you over until I upload that fingering post. Don’t worry those foreplay tips are on their way! They’ll be posted once I conquer this bug!
Take it easy and don’t get sick.
-ASCW
I’ll be taking a break this weekend, probably not updating until late Sunday or Monday. I’ll soon be posting how to use different fingering methods THAT WORK. This is not your typical “use a come hither motion” kind of advice that is seen everywhere. This is exclusive HARD-HITTING stuff that will get you RESULTS! That will be coming up soon so stay tuned for that.
However what I want to tell you in this post is that we are now accepting letters and submissions. If you have any sex or foreplay related questions send them to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com. I will PERSONALLY review your question and either answer it myself or point you in the right direction to get it answered by somebody else.
So leave me some good stuff over the weekend for me to come back to. Again send me your sex and foreplay questions to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com.
Don’t Screw It Up, and Cheers.
~ASCW~
(P.S. Did I tell you that the email address was SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com? Since that part is kind of important.)