Archive for January, 2010
Here’s a quick little video about how stimulating the clit with your hands and mouth. The music’s a little ridiculous but the content is pretty solid. These are some good foreplay tips to add to your weaponry.
Enjoy! And take it easy.
~ASCW~
(P.S. If you try those Foreplay Tips, let me know how it goes my emailing my at sexandforeplaytipsformen@gmail.com)
Mixing it up and having some variety is essential to keeping a sexual relationship healthy and happy. Too much of the same because stale any good thing gets boring after too much repetition. Now that you know that sexual relationships require variety; I thought I’d give you some sexual ammunition to make that happen.
If you have some of your own ideas on how to spice things up, run with it. But for those of you who are less creative here are some easy foreplay tipsideas that can turn up the heat.
Oral Sex: Most men might feel uncomfortable when thinking about “going down” on her. You may be sexually conservative and prefer not to venture outside of kissing and coddling. If you are one of these people I highly encourage to take a step out of your comfort zone. I’d recommend reading some articles and literature on cunnilingus. Expect one from me shortly.
Anal Play: Anal foreplay typically doesn’t involve typically penetration but rather outside stimulation, like rubbing, tickling, and possibly licking. That being said: this is a form of foreplay that I can understand being a little uncomfortable. Society has long deemed the anus dirty, forbidden, taboo. But society can’t change the fact that the anus contains a dense concentration of nerve endings. That concentration of nerve endings makes anal play a double-edged sword. While the potential for pleasure is very high, so is the potential for pain. If you plan on doing anal play, do your research and use lube liberally.
Fantasy & Role Play: Fantasies are common. You have them. She has them. Why not act them out? Acting our fantasies by role-playing is a very safe way to sexually express ourselves, along with having some fun. Role-playing pretending to be another role (nurse, school girl, pool boy), is the core of fantasy. It is easier to do things we wouldn’t normally do once we are no longer “ourselves”. Role-playing allows us to break these boundaries and really explore our partner and ourselves. If you need anything to get the creative juices flowing or just a nudge in the right direction I suggest picking up a deck of role playing cards.
Bondage & Domination: This often provokes bad imagery of over the top whips, chains, masks, and leather. But it doesn’t have too. Bondage and domination can be as simple and as fun. It can be something as simple as tying her hands behind her back, using handcuffs, or blindfolding her (or yourself). Don’t make it a scary thing if you don’t have too. Spank her with an object, get some handcuffs, and try blindfolding her. This is all technically bondage and domination, but less intimidating to try. A book you may want to considering buying would be this guide to bondage.
Sexy Texts: Foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. In this day and age you can start cranking the sexual heat hours before an encounter with the touch of a few buttons. Hinting and leading to a sexual encounter to happen in the future is a good way to get her ready and in the mood. These texts can vary from extremity, whether it is a subtle “I’ve got plans for you tonight” or a blunt “When you come over I’m throwing you on the couch and fucking your brains out.” The sky is the limits when it comes to sexy texts.
That was easy, just by incorporating one of these foreplay tips; you have increased your sexual game and can have better sex with your partner.
While Kegels are no where close to new news. They are still extremely effective. However like any exercise it can be hard to develop a habit or a routine, that consistently builds your PC muscle. I know I had trouble, I tried to do it in the shower, sometime during the day, and before I went to sleep. But I would often forget, or skip one, or just slack off in general. This is procrastination and lack of discipline is something that everybody faces, to some degree. I didn’t really find a solution for this until recently. Until I was bored at a red light. I was at a red light bored out of my mind waiting idly and passively for it to turn green. Then I started doing kegels and I light bulb appeared over my head. What a great way to consistently practice and stregthen your kegel and PC muscle. Everytime I’m at a red light I’m exercising. I’ll do strong and long flexes at one light and then at the next red light I’ll do rapid but weaker flexes. This is my new routine and I have just solved two problems with one solution. If you’re having trouble integrating kegels into your daily life I suggest this method.
Take it easy, and do some kegels.
~ASCW
(P.S. I’m back and expect some damn good sex and foreplay tips coming soon.)