Archive for October, 2009
Sexual Confidence – The Multi Orgasmic Man
If a man asked me “What is the one book I can read to greatly boost my sexual pleasure as well as my partner’s?” I would tell them The Multi Orgasmic Man.
I’m currently reading the Multi Orgasmic Man, and so far I have been greatly satisfied with what I’ve read. It’s a great book connecting internal arts (meditation,etc) with sex. It’s essentially sexual martial arts. The book’s focus is more about how to pleasure yourself and keep yourself healthy, rather than pleasuring your partner (Although that is covered). After the first page I thought “Great another book telling me to be Buddha and blow my Tao sexual energy into her G-spot”. Boy was I wrong!!!! After reading their segment on sexual breathing, I now recommend their technique over my own to any of my friends. I know I’m using their technique! Not only does this book teach some of the best ejaculation control methods I’ve ever read, they also teach you how to increase the power of your own orgasms, and how to have as many of them as you want without ejaculating. After using their techniques on enabling your own full body orgasm I tried them out and was blown away. I have never orgasmed that hard without intercourse. I’m very excited to present to you, The Multi Orgasmic Man
I also very much enjoyed the segment on things your female partner can do if you have a small penis. If you think your penis is too small I highly recommend
you read the several posts I wrote on it, as well as get this book.
This book if a perfect in between for the different schools of sex. Most books out there focus entirely on the physical, or entirely on the mental(badly I should mention). Where as this book talks about both, and covers just about everything. If I had to recommend just one book it would be this one. I highly recommend that if you are reading my site that you go pick this book up (you can find it here). I will probably be referencing this book in the posts to come.
You can click here to buy the book.
Just a quick rundown of what you can expect from this book
-How to control your ejaculations
-How to have extremely powerful orgasms
-How to have full body orgasms
-How to have as many orgasms as you want.
-How to use your heightened sense of pleasure to heighten your partner’s.
-How to have more sexual confidence.
-What your woman can do if you have a small penis.
Seriously guys, get the book, it’s worth it. I’ll be talking about it later and you don’t want to be in the dark.
You can click here to buy the book.
Take it easy, and nighttime reading is about to get way more fun for you.
-ASCW
(P.S. It’s important to realize that this book if about the deeper and more complicated sexual issues. While it does have plently of good sex tips and foreplay tips, that is not the books primary purpose.)
Have any questions or comments about The Multi Orgasmic Man, or sex in general? Send them to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com
I’ve posted before about the importance of slowing down during sex, and focusing on enjoying the moment. Silencing the noise within yourself. I found an interesting article I thought you might find interesting.
It’s about how our day and age is ruining our sex lives, and the solution is to take a step back, make time, slow down and focus. Anyways, just wanted to throw this your way.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl-honore/in-praise-of-slow-sex_b_322026.html
Take it easy, and slow down
-ASCW
Hey, sorry about the lack of updates recently. I have around 3 different golden articles I’m working on right now, so alot of good stuff is coming your way. But I don’t like to just leave you high and dry like that, so inbetween my articles or if I’m going a little slower (like I have been this week) than I like to post small interesting tidbits of information about sex.
Article Removed. Went over it with people who ACTUALLY know things about science and I was way off the mark. Oh well. There are some intesting references so I’ll keep my eyes peeled.
Take it easy, and stay tuned for some good stuff on the way.
-ASCW
Today’s article is about sexual confidence, what it is and why most men do not have it.
This is a clip from the movie “Take The Lead” it stars Antonio Banderas as a high school teacher at an underprivileged school, who teaches kids how to tango. There is one scene that I want to talk about.
Skip to 6:32 and watch until 9:26
9:10 – 9:26
“How many of you men would like to handle a woman like that? And ladies how many of you would like to have the power to drive men to this attraction.”
I love this scene and this quote. That dance followed by this quote explains a sexual dynamic so simply that it deserves preaching. Essentially he is saying it is manly to want to dominate, but more importantly to lead, and that to capture and lead their prize is in and of itself, manly. Where on the other side of the coin, it is womanly to have such charms that can inspire a man to this state. It is womanly to lure a man into seducing her, where it is manly to do the actual seduction.
(I think this is true for most people whether they realize it or not. However there will always be exceptions.)
However many men I know have a very hard time with sexually dominating and sexually leading. Frankly I don’t blame them, and I have something to say for every man who feels this way.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!
We now live in a society where it is wrong to be manly, and wrong to be womanly. Women are told not to be women and men are told not to be men. Men have been told for their entire life by T.V. and their mothers that women are like princesses, gentle flowers, doing anything “manly” or “animal” is disrespectful to them and considered social heresy. Women are also affected, it’s not their fault, they have been told their entire lives by T.V. and their mothers that they must be sweet, lady like, doing anything “crude” or “sexual” would make them sluts and considered social heresy. Do you see what’s going on here? Men are told do go down path Y (treat women like flowers) and women are told to go down path Z(pretend not to be sexual) when both men and women really want to down the middle path, path x (treating and being treated sexually).
It is easier to harness sexual confidence once you realize that women are literally (internally of course) begging for you to use it, to bring it on to them. If you don’t believe me, try it.
In fact that is your homework assignment. Do something sexual that you were always afraid or not confident enough to try. I’m willing to bet that a majority of you will be more successful than you previously thought possible. Even if you aren’t successful, taking those first steps is the only way to learn and improve.
Take it easy, and be fearless.
-ASCW
Have an interesting sex story, or would like to share the results of your homework assignment? Email them to SexAndForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com or leave a comment.
P.S. I have some good stuff coming up pretty soon though, you can expect it at the end of this week or the beginning of next.
I have a pretty busy weekend planned. I will not get around to writing any more posts probably until next monday. I have a few topics I could write about in mind.But I want to give you the chance to choose what I write about.
If there is any specific thing about sex you want to know about, or you’d like to see post on something you’re having specific difficulty with then email me at SexandForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com
I’ll be taking suggestions and will even take Q&A.
Choose what you want to read about
SexandForeplayTipsForMen@Gmail.com
Take it easy and send in your questions.
-ASCW
Here’s a foreplay tip for men with smaller hands. It took me a while to figure out how to use my hands in a way that would overcome their small size. But I’ve figured out a few tricks. I’ve already written about the thumb method (thumb foreplay tip found here), but today I’d like to explain how to stimulate the deep spot if your fingers aren’t naturally long enough to reach back far enough. In order to do this technique you have to
1) Get her really wet, this means you don’t just dive in there and start poking. You need to do A LOT, and I mean a lot of buildup before you can unleash this.
2) Once you’ve gotten her REALLY wet, then you should apply lube to your middle finger, and your index finger. Yes lube even though you’ve done all of this build up. (Seriously if you haven’t gotten your supply ofAstroglide, act now because seriously, it is a must. Click here to open in a new tab, then read the rest of this article, and then buy some Astroglide.)
3) Make sure your fingernails are WELL clipped.
Once she’s primed and ready. Insert your middle and index finger inside of her. Reach in as far as you can. Once you can’t get any further use your index finer to push against her front vaginal wall. You want to push her wall down as if you were trying to stretch it towards her vaginal opening. This will essentially “scrunch” her vagina, bringing her cervix closer to your finger. Since you’ve essentially shortened her vagina you should be able to hit her deep spot with your middle finger. Enjoy making her cum, because I already know she will.
Take it easy, and seriously go buy some Astroglide
-ASCW
(P.S. If you prefer using your middle and ring finger, I find it easier to push the front wall with your middle finger and use your ring finger to stimulate. Mix, match, use whatever works for you.)
(P.P.S. Seriously buy some Astroglide if you haven’t already.)
I’m going to address the real advantage to having a big penis. Yes there is one very distinct advantage to having a big cock, and no it is not related to any myth of “more stimulation”. The advantage to having a big dick is very subtle, because it is entirely mental. Mentally, guys with bigger penises are at an advantage over their smaller companions. To demonstrate this we will look at ManA and ManB. ManA has a big cock ManB has a little one.
They both grow up and live their lives and at some point ManA realized that his penis is big, and ManB realizes that his penis is small. ManA is more sexually confident because of his member where ManB is nervous that he isn’t big enough. Now this cycle wheels its way around probably hundreds of times before either of these two men have sex. ManA gets more and more excited about his big dick, where as ManB gets more and more nervous.
Now lets fast-forward to the first time these men have sex. This is the day that ManA has waited for, he finally gets to use his mega-drill, he is more confident, more dominant; after all what does he have to lose? He’s got a big dick. The sexual experience is good or at least over time becomes good. A cycle is started. He has a big dick and is confident and excited that it will deliver. So he does, he credits his dick and becomes more confident leading to better results.
Now lets look at ManB. He knows his penis is small, and he is worried that it won’t be big enough to satisfy his partner. Then the day finally comes, the day he has waited for but also feared. Will she laugh at him? Is his relationship doomed because of his small penis? How will he compare to others? Thoughts of fear run through his head. He is timid and nervous in bed, exudes no confidence. Because of this the experience isn’t good. He blames his small dick, and fears that he won’t ever be able to overcome, that because of his dick he won’t be able to deliver like the other men. So he doesn’t, he blames his little wiener and his confidence gets kicked even lower. The same cycle happens for ManB, only the other way.
Once you realize that it is entirely mental, you are no longer bound by these rules. You gain the freedom to choose what kind of lover you’ll be. You can choose to give amazing sex no matter how big you are. You can choose to be the best lover she’s ever had. All you need to do is learn more, harness your skills. Whether that means reading this blog, or buying some good sex books. You have the choice to become the man you want to be in bed.
If you’re looking for a sex guide then click here.
If you want to know how to overcome your small penis, then click here.
If you’re looking for general sex and foreplay tips then click here.
Or if you have a specific question for me, feel free to email me at SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com
Take it easy, and take her down.
-ASCW
Finally! I am feeling better, and can function like a regular human. First I want to apologize for the lack of updates last week. I talked about the new technique I was about to unleash then got sick and couldn’t write it up! But that was then, this is now. I’ve got a story for you!
“Why do I think this is one of the most important things I’ve learned in a long time?”
That’s what a friend of mine said as I told him the technique absent-mindedly on the bus.
I’m actually quite puzzled. Whenever I share this technique with guys (the perks of knowing me in person) they’re always pretty impressed. Here’s what puzzles me. This technique is SO OBVIOUS that you cannot realize it is SO OBVIOUS until somebody points it out to you. (Kind of like that island in Pirates of the Caribbean 1)
So before I unleash this foreplay tip I want you to look at your hand.
If your hand is like most other human hands it looks like this.
Now measure your thumb, and then measure your middle finger.
My measurements come out the following (please excuse my little girly hands)
Thumb = 2.7 inches
Middle Finger = 3.1 inches.
The difference isn’t even half of an inch.
Obviously your measurements won’t be exactly like mine. I just want you to notice how much longer your thumb is then you probably realized. Now we’re going to go a little bit deeper. And yes this is important for the foreplay tip.
Now I want you to put out your middle finger, as if you were about to finger a girl. You’ll notice that the first digits of your other two fingers essentially clog the base of your middle finger, rendering that part of your finger unusable.
When you measure the first digit of your middle finger and then subtract that from the overall length of your middle finger, you’ll get your UFL (Usable Finger Length).
For example my middle finger is 3.1 inches, and the first digit is 1 inch. 3.1 – 1 = 2.1 meaning that I have 2.1 inches that can actually be utilized to finger a girl.
My thumb length = 2.7 inches
My MF UFL = 2.1 inches
So the thumb is actually often better for fingering women.
Now I want to talk about angles. In most angles the UFL of the thumb is usually better than the UFL of your middle finger. But there are angles where the Thumb’s UFL becomes longer than the thumbs length.
If you position your girl in the doggy style position, you can finger her with your thumb very effectively. Your thumb will essentially go straight into her G-spot and will be at a great angle for stimulating it. You have more mobility and can deliver more pressure on the G-spot with your thumb than your finger. Also since the wall of your hand that essentially the base of your thumb, is spongy and can be pushed back. This means that you can finger her even deeper. The UFL of your thumb when using this technique becomes longer than the length of your thumb.
Another advantage to using your thumb is the fact that you have the rest of your fingers to stimulate her clitoris. Giving a woman a clitoral orgasm is a pretty powerful thing; giving a woman a G-spot orgasm is also a very powerful thing. Give her both at the same time and I can assure you she won’t ever forget about you.
The thumb is not the only hyper effective way to finger a girl. I’ll go over other techniques later this week.
Take it easy, and stick your thumb in it.
-ASCW
I’m still pretty sick and which is why I haven’t posted that hyped fingering method that I promised you earlier. So I thouht I’d post a quick intro to Dan and Jennifer. They have a sex advice channel on youtube. I think they give very excellent brief content. I say brief since they rarely go deep into the fundamentals of the matter (That’s what I’m for), but they often give good intros or good overviews of a variety of topics. So without further delay here is a video about giving a g-spot orgasm.
Take it easy, Don’t get sick, and GIVE HER A G-SPOT ORGASM!
-ASCW