Archive for September, 2009
So I’ve been under the weather lately, which is my excuse for the lack of updates. However I don’t want to just leave you high and dry. So are some effective videos explaining the what how and why of kegel exercises. If performed properly and consistently kegel exercises will increase your sexual stamina. A pretty good sex tip or foreplay tip if you ask me.
This gives an overview of how kegels work.
This video is more indepth and gives some more advanced exercises for men.
This is just to hold you over until I upload that fingering post. Don’t worry those foreplay tips are on their way! They’ll be posted once I conquer this bug!
Take it easy and don’t get sick.
-ASCW
I’ll be taking a break this weekend, probably not updating until late Sunday or Monday. I’ll soon be posting how to use different fingering methods THAT WORK. This is not your typical “use a come hither motion” kind of advice that is seen everywhere. This is exclusive HARD-HITTING stuff that will get you RESULTS! That will be coming up soon so stay tuned for that.
However what I want to tell you in this post is that we are now accepting letters and submissions. If you have any sex or foreplay related questions send them to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com. I will PERSONALLY review your question and either answer it myself or point you in the right direction to get it answered by somebody else.
So leave me some good stuff over the weekend for me to come back to. Again send me your sex and foreplay questions to SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com.
Don’t Screw It Up, and Cheers.
~ASCW~
(P.S. Did I tell you that the email address was SexandForeplayTipsForMen@gmail.com? Since that part is kind of important.)
I stumbled upon this video and thought this lady really hit home one of the problems men have when it comes to giving good sex and good foreplay. They cannot turn off their brain, they cannot stop worrying, thinking about this and that. Do give amazing sex you must get LOST in the moment. ABSORBED by the emotion.
She really sums up this idea nicely and quickly.
TURN YOUR BRAIN OFF!!!
Today’s blog post is about vaginal massage. Vaginal massage is one of the MOST UNDERAPPRECIATED methods of amplifying a woman’s orgasm. I bet that nearly every single man reading this blog post doesn’t have any idea how to provide a sensual massage that leads into a vaginal massage. Vaginal massage is the in between point for sexual massage and foreplay. It is one of the first opportunities to properly exhibit one of the foreplay tips of mastery. Normally when men attempt a sexual massage they do not properly melt into the next process, they just jump right into foreplay. THEY ARE CLUELESS! They stumble all over her body thinking they’re giving her the experience of a lifetime and they have NO IDEA that they’re MESSING THE ENTIRE THING UP! Meanwhile she sits there bored pretending to moan so he won’t feel discouraged, since if he feels discouraged then there’s no way he’ll really fuck her properly. Let me go over some of the vital mistakes men make.
1 – Move too quickly. Men often get way to excited during any sexual experience and they rush to the finish. When a man massages he’ll often go from massaging a part of the body and the next thing the girl knows he’s trying to finger her. Bad play gentlemen, take it easy.
2 – Move too slowly. Sometimes men go too far the other way, they shut down their animal brain completely and they spend too much time calculating what to do next. This is partially because they do not know how and when to transfer from one act to the next. Keep in mind how you will move from one position or method to another.
3 – Discriminate their attention. Don’t try and think in terms of “what is the most optimal”. Here’s an example: if they clit is the most sensitive area then it’s the most important. It will give me the most return on my efforts, why would I focus on anything less? This is a HUGE MISTAKE that MEN EVERYWHERE make. Don’t discriminate your attention, think of the whole pie not just the best slice.
Here are some foreplay tips so you don’t screw it up next time.
1- Don’t move too quickly.
2- Don’t just jump to her goodies
3- Take time to create a whole experience. From start to finish.
4- Focus on overall enjoyment than orgasms at first.
Take is easy and don’t screw it up
-ASCW
There are many foreplay tips and techniques that have finally become “mainstream”, the G-Spot, and clitoral stimulation for example. We’ve come along way since the 50’s. In the 50’s G-Spot, clitoral stimulation wouldn’t be discussed and it was pretty much taboo to bring it up; fast forward 50 years later and my little brother in high school knows what both of them are. However there are still some devastatingly powerful techniques to be implemented that the mainstream does not know about. These foreplay tips and techniques are really only commonly referred to in the underground seduction and affiliated communities.
The technique is referred to as “The Deep Spot”. It is much like the G-Spot method in the likes that it refers to a place in the vagina that you are stimulating. Since the DS hasn’t really penetrated the mainstream, the men who utilize it are at an extreme advantage. The DS can create extremely powerful orgasms. I remember the first time I ever stimulated the deep spot, it was one of the most incredible sexual experiences I’ve had to this day. She was bent over and I was lying under her. I was pressing on her deep spot and I immediately got a response. I kept at it, pushing on it and creating a rhythm. Her response kept getting stronger and stronger until she was the point of orgasm. I however didn’t stop there, I kept at it and started to incorporate mental stimulation and began to vocally encourage her. I continued and she started to cum, and cum, and cum. She came so much that her cum was literally going down my arm and pooling on my bed. Needless to say, I became a believer.
The deep spot is located near the very end of the vagina. It is essentially right before the cervix.
The part labeled Cervix (Ouch) is where the pain typically come from during intercourse. When you go barreling straight into the front part of the cervix, it hurts. However although the deep spot is technically a part of the cervix, it is off to the side, which is why it does not hurt.
The actual act of stimulating the Deep Spot is mostly how you would imagine. Stick your finger in and slide it along the front wall (or back if you’re going for the reverse Deep Spot) until you reach the end of her vagina. The texture will change and it there will be a little cave at the end. Others have described the end as a balloon. You want to put your finger against the front wall of the balloon and there will be horizontal rims. The texture will feel strange; it is usually compared to the inside of a Frisbee (surprisingly accurate). Slowly push on that spot, start slow and then increase pace and pressure. It is important to get a good read on how much pressure she can handle so you can adapt your approach.
An advantage to the Deep Spot is that it is much more resilient to stimulation, unlike the clitoris. The clit can be stimulated but usually once orgasm is achieved the clit is too sensitive to stimulate. Not so with the Deep Spot. Also I strongly recommend the use of lube when using this technique. The Deep Spot is very sensitive and you do not want to scratch or damage it in anyway. If you do not have lube then I suggest you purchase Astroglide, it is the number choice of lube for any man who knows what he’s doing in bed. You can check out Astroglide by clicking here.
BIG MEN HAVE NO FEAR! THERE ARE SEX AND FORELAY TIPS FOR YOU!
I’m going to give some attention to the other side of the coin. It’s not fair for me to teach men with small penises how to properly use theirs and just ignore the big guys. If you’ve been reading I gave some great advice, and showed how men with smaller penises could use that size to their advantage and pleasure women in ways a bigger penis cannot. I do not want to ignore the other guys. While a big penis doesn’t equate to better love making, like a small penis it has advantages and disadvantages the other size does not have. So here are some sex tips for the big man.
WHAT A SMALL MAN CANNOT DO, A BIG MAN CAN.
Being a man on the smaller side of average, I’d like to give present some personal woes to demonstrate some advantages the big man has. While I obviously deliver top-notch sex, there are some positions that are simply off limits to me because of my size. For example it is nearly impossible for me to have sex while standing up. I just don’t have enough dick to really get in there from that angle. When I do get in there it is fairly awkward and mostly unsatisfying. There are plenty of positions that I just simply cannot pull off due to my size. However the positions I cannot do, bigger men can. While this position is impossible for me, a longer man can pull it off with ease.
THE PROBLEM
However having a big member isn’t always fun and games. Often women can experience discomfort to severe pain if they’re with a man who is “too big”. The physical source of the pain is the hitting of the cervix. The cervix is where the uterus joins the top of the vagina. (Technical mumbo jumbo here). Obviously during sex we stop thinking logically and become immersed in our emotions (hopefully). It is hard for a man to be focused on not hitting the cervix while getting lost in sex.
THE SOLUTION
The more foreplay the better, it is even more important to get her properly warmed up when you’re penis is large. Also think ahead, while you cannot reliably stop yourself just before hitting the cervix, you can use positions that make hitting the cervix more difficult. Earlier we discussed positions that give more penetration, and how angling the vagina upwards and towards you provides extra penetration. The opposite is also true, if you’re well endowed you can angle the vagina away from you for a little less penetration. That way you can go buck wild without hitting her cervix.
HERE ARE SOME POSITIONS YOU SHOULD TRY IF YOU ARE WELL ENDOWED!
The difference between this style of doggy and others is the angle of penetration. This angle should allow you to go all out with less chance of hurting her.
Again because her vagina is angled away from you, there is less chance of going too far.
These positions are good starting points, I encourage you to experiment and try them out. Again, I STRONGLY recommend getting a sex position book, like the Kama Sutra. Even if you are not actively interested in performing exotic sexual positions; they are incredibly useful for reference they give more options, better instruction, and more insight to sexual positions. Click here for my recommendation.
I recently posted a little tidbit about positions with a smaller penis size. I’d like to expand on that, give a little more explanation and of course more pictures (jackpot ). If you have a small penis you need not fear. There are barrages of sexual positions and sex tips that give you extra penetration, and gives better G-spot stimulation. I’m going to post a crazy amount of graphics to illustrate some of these positions.
(Although a great sex tip, you’ll notice how her feet are locked behind her head. this isn’t really at all required, and may be difficult for those who arne’t particularly flexible. If you need to go ahead and make this a hybrid with the folded deck chair)
These are not the only positions that will give you an edge; all of these positions have something in common. They all elevate the angle that you come in at. The more her vagina is pointing up the more penetration you can potentially achieve. I’m telling you this so you won’t think that you are somehow restricted to these positions. As long as you understand the rules that guide them you can adopt those rules for all sorts of various positions of your own making.
I’m going to make some recommendations about this one. Although the angle on this position is pretty great I do not suggest you try and achieve it in the way portrayed in the picture. If you’re interested in trying this position then suggest these changes.
- Turn around; essentially make it a reverse piledriver. That means that she should see your back instead of your front.
- Do it near support, have her be able to use a bed or couch for support. You can use the same couch for support by using your hands.
I will present a bad drawing in paint to illustrate my point.
Exploring sexual positions can unlock a whole new door to sexual pleasure. I highly recommend that everybody gets at least one book on sexual positions. I recommend is this one, includes images that don’t suck 
. You can click here to check it out.
I want to talk a bit about penis size. Men worldwide are gripped with paralyzing fear that their penis isn’t long enough, thick enough, big enough, etc. I think it is something many men get hung up on, and something that is rarely accurately addressed. I say accurately because ENTIRE INDUSTRIES exist to instill and keep men PARALYZED with fear. Frankly I’m sick and tired of all the bullshit out there making men think that they can’t be sex gods unless they were born hung or buy their retarded tablets. I want to shed light on this situation to end the tyranny and enable every man big or small to fuck like a champion.
As I said there are entire industries out there to kick and keep men down. Take a look at Enzyne or Extenze. Their entire business revolves keeping you afraid and insecure. Hell just look in your spam folder, how many emails are trying to instill fear and insecurity in you? How many are telling you that you need a bigger cock to satisfy a woman?
There’s an even bigger culprit, porn. Porn leads to a common vicious cycle among men. A cycle that results in more and more insecurity and fear about their penis size. Porn features men with gigantic cocks. As well as women who are paid a lot of money to scream their heads off, and fake orgasms. When men watch porn they compare themselves to the porn star. Now remember a large majority of men are hopelessly bad in bed, and the majority of men have an average-ish sized cock. So what happens these men watch porn? They see the girl screaming and wonder “how can I get my girl to like sex that much.” And then they see the guy’s gigantic cock and the girl screaming, “It’s so big”, etc. It is not hard to understand why so many men are so insecure. However it is all bullshit. Porn is fake, and staged. Porn queens typically do one or more of the following before a scene. All sorts of warm-ups and stretches to prepare for the monstercock, apply numbing gels so they can’t feel anything, or get doped up. So what happens to the unsuspecting porn watching male:
1 – They watch porn
2- They have sex with a girl badly, the girl probably doesn’t orgasm because the guy sucks
3 – They watch more porn and notice the screaming orgasms and the giant cock
4- Man doubts himself, which lowers his sexual confidence, which creates diminishing results.
5- Sex gets worse. They watch more porn.
6- You see where I’m going with this.
A hidden enabler of this crisis is the fact that these men never deliver a mind-blowing orgasm to a woman. If you have given a girl multiple orgasms, or made them cum several times, you realize that the reactions are much stronger than that seen in porn. The problem is guys never see the real thing, so they can’t tell it apart from the false.
I swear too god people do not even use common sense when they think about penis sizes. Why is it that men will often compare and analyze the effects of penis size without acknowledging the vaginal counterpart? Is it so unbelievable that vaginas come in different shapes and sizes as well? Guys assume that bigger is better without even thinking about how it would interact with any given vagina. Men seem to think of penis sizes in the sense of absolutes. When in reality there are so many different parts and pieces to match up. Understanding how penis size relates to any sexual encounter is more of a Mr. Potato head scenario then an absolute sense of rules.
There are positions that having a smaller penis actually GIVES you an advantage. In these positions your smaller penis will actually give superior G-spot stimulation.
Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.
Courtesy of SexInfo101.com.
Unfortunately and somewhat ironically there aren’t really any positions where having a larger penis is a distinct advantage. Don’t be too let down because there are some advantages to having a big member. Some positions are somewhat difficult or off limits to some men because of a smaller size, where as a man with a bigger unit can experiment with a wider array of sex positions. There are some mental and psychological benefits that give bigger men an edge.
It is important to realize that there is no iron or ultimate rule when it comes to penis size. Whatever size you are sexual doors open while others close. It is your job to fully utilize the doors that are open to you.
Remember that as far as the physical realm of sex is concerned, you really only have to get good up to a certain point, once you get “good enough” at physical sex your home free and there is little use worrying about it. Once you get “good enough” the only thing that will really better your abilities is mental stimulation. It is this mental stimulation that will allow you to transcend beyond the average male in bed.
Just wanted to chime in and apologize for the lack of updates recently. There’s some good stuff on the way I promise. I did however just have an article get published on Ezinearticles.com. Due to legality reasons I’m unsure if I can straight up copy and paste it here. I can however give you the link. This is definitely a topic I will be expanding upon much, much later.
You can click here for the article.
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-Casual-Sex-Will-Sabotage-Your-Love-Life&id=2841084
Now we’ve talked about the importance of sexual confidence, but we haven’t really given any steps as to how to achieve it. Now becoming more confident in one area of life can often lead one down the rabbit hole of self-improvement in the general sense. I’m going to try to avoid going too deep into that rabbit hole, but to an extent it is unavoidable. To understand confidence we have to understand the opposite of condidence, insecurity and fear. An important step in establishing sexual confidence (or any confidence for that matter) is the ability to identify your fears and insecurities and then confront and conquer them.Often men try and skip creating these strong sexual foundations by looking up some quick sex or foreplay tip, while they can often get a small short term increase in sexual ability; they will still only be experiencing the tip of the iceberg, as well as only giving his partner the tip of the iceberg.
I’ll go over some of the most common male sex fears. I’ll break them down and give steps to defeating them.
1 – Performance Anxiety
Interestingly enough, the number 1 fear that prevents men from being good in bed is the fear of being bad in bed. This can often be a self-fulfilling prophecy. A man fears being bad in bed, he runs through all the bad scenarios that could happen. He sees in his head the sex being awkward, him being clumsy. Is it any surprise that this what he ends up doing? If this is one of your fears here’s a simple exercise for you. Next time you get the bad images occurring in your head, you see yourself messing up, etc; I want you to stop yourself, realize what you’re doing and then change the script. I want you to picture victory instead of failure, dominance over anxiety. Picture you ravaging her with lust, her getting off over and over again. Picture yourself using some of the techniques on this website, then use them!
2- Fear of comparison
Maybe you fear (or know) that you can’t compare sexually to one of her previous sexual partners. Knowing that your woman has had mind-blowing sex with another man can be a rough pill to swallow for some. I’d like to demonstrate a remedy from a personal example. I remember the last time I had trouble with the fear of comparison. I was visiting my girlfriend while she had some of her girlfriends over. They were discussing the hottest men in Hollywood. I knew my girlfriend was a big fan of Johnny Depp. One of the girlfriends brought up Johnny Depp and my girlfriend said “Who would there even be without Johnny Depp?” and then she said “Hugh Jackman, that’s who.” “Great” I thought, now I have to compare myself to Johnny Depp and Hugh Jackman? Then I had a realization, I realized that if she were with Johnny Depp, Hugh Jackman wouldn’t be any less appealing or attractive. You becoming more attractive does not make other men less attractive. The opposite is also true, Hugh Jackman being really attractive, doesn’t make you any less. There is nothing anybody can do about this, except accept this fact and move on. There comes a point where you need to stop being insecure about being compared to great men, and accept your rank amongst them.
3- Penal fears
I’m going to lump together two different fears. I’m also only going to go over them very briefly because they both have their own articles coming very soon. The two fears are fear of premature ejaculation and the fear of having a small penis. Now premature ejaculation can be conquered either mentally or physically, preferably both. But I can guarantee any man who suffers from P.E. that the more they worry about it the more it will destroy them. There are ways to physically fight P.E. there are a variety of exercises one can use to strengthen the P.C. muscle and gain control over ejaculation. However P.E. is much like fear of performance anxiety. When a man sees it in his head over and over again, he fulfills it.
The idea of having a penis that is too small can be absolutely crippling to a man. How else could Extenze stay in business? Because men fearing their penis is too small is a very real and widespread fear. Again, there are mental and physical ways of fighting this fear. There are sexual positions that having a smaller penis gives you an advantage to stimulating a woman. Again, like with the fear of performance anxiety the more you worry about it, the more you picture it beating you up, the more it will. One of the biggest advantages a well-endowed man has over an average sized man is the original sense of sexual confidence. A well-endowed man is excited to use his large member, he becomes to busy thinking about delivering mind blowing pleasure (a self fulfilling prophecy regardless of size) that he does. Where an average man hesitates, the well-endowed man is instilled with confidence. Once you realize that a big member actually enhances sexual performance because of how it influences the man mentally, you can create that confidence regardless of your size, you can create that mental imagery of dominating a woman you can share that excitement for sex, you can eliminate the common fears; and experience the same results regardless of size.