Archive for August, 2009
Every man can share one experience in regards to women. I believe every man has seen a smoking hot girl with some ugly, fat man and thought, “How the hell did that happen?” Many guys are puzzled at this phenomenon; the reason for their bewilderment is the fact that guys are so attracted and lured in by the external that it is hard for them to imagine that women aren’t wired the same way. In reality women aren’t nearly attracted to external as men, they are more attracted to confidence, assertiveness, humor, self-worth all of which are internal qualities. This blog does not exist to teach you how to pick up women; but these rules apply to sex as much as they do seduction. (for more info on seduction visit the resources section)
I was recently spending time with one of my closest female friends. She was telling me about the things her new boyfriend did in bed. None of them were positive. Now the sex wasn’t “bad” per-se but it definitely wasn’t good, and she definitely wasn’t having orgasms. We even joked about me hiding under the bed so I could pop out and give him pointers (poor guy). I’ll give you a rundown on some of his mistakes.
- Would ask logical questions during sex. “How is that?”
- Question himself and her during sex. “Do you actually like having sex with me?”
- Generally being unconfident
All of these things scream “I am not confident” “I am not worthy.” “I am internally weak.” And are very big turn offs to women. Had he been able to turn off his thoughts, strip himself of his insecurities and just enjoyed the moment unconditionally, the sex would have increased by 100%. Now last week we talked about how men don’t value the emotional and mental aspect of sex in regards to women. Today I want to talk about how we don’t take care of ourselves mentally and emotionally in regards to sex. Because men have an obsession and focus on the external, they don’t even pause to look at how their lack of internal game is affecting their sex lives. Even worse, they don’t even know that they are supposed to! Most men are completely clueless to the fact that they even have “internal game” let alone know what to do with it or how to fix it. It doesn’t matter how long you can go, what kind of crazy sex position you can pull off, if you have a weak and insecure frame of mind the sex will be bad. 90% of what we say comes from our body language, and I’m willing to bet that nearly the entire 95% of men who are mediocre or worse in bed have mediocre or worse sexual body language. They are worried or thinking about what she will think if they do this or that? This is one of the root causes of poor sexual body language. It comes from fear, and insecurity. Insecurity leads to questioning themselves, which leads to fear and nervousness. Woman want to be fucked by a man who isn’t afraid to show his animal lust and who won’t be afraid theirs, not a boywho questions himself every step of the way. One of the keys to obtaining good sexual body language is learning how to turn off conscious thought and exist only in the feeling of the moment, to free yourself from your inhibitions, and experience every sexual sensation to the fullest.
I’d like for you to consciously think about what internal and mental processes occur within you during sex. Think about how this could affect your sexual body language. Are your thoughts causing you to freeze up, and act with fear? Or do your thoughts generate such sexual excitement that you feel like you can barely hold yourself back? We will be going into this topic further shortly so I’d like for you to analyze yourself so you can take full advantage of our next article.
Sex is an extremely powerful facet of human emotion. Like any emotion it all takes place in your brain. Think about that for a second, it all takes place in your brain. When you hit your thumb with a hammer, signals are shot up to your brain and back and then your BRAIN says “OW!”. Sex, while mostly regarded as physical is in fact extremely emotionally and psychologically stimulating. The difference can be seen when you compare masturbating with having sex with a beautiful woman. Both provide that physical stimulation, but only one stimulates the mind.
One cannot become sexual master without understanding and utilizing the power of stimulating the mind during sex. This concept if very intuitive to women but very foreign to men. In fact it is one of the biggest reasons why so many men are clueless to their inadequacy in bed. When one compares a man who can stimulate a woman psychologically during sex to a man who cannot, one can see that they are on completely different playing fields. What’s worst is that the man who is not stimulating the woman mentally and emotionally doesn’t even know that he’s supposed to. This man is one of the 97% of men who thinks he is “the man” in bed but in reality is a dud.
Most men do not realize that is doesn’t matter how fast you pump, how hard you pump, how big your dick is. If you are not stimulating them psychologically then you are barely scratching the surface of pleasure that you could both be experiencing. Not only do most men fail to realize this, but most sex books do as well. Most sex books talk about sex positions, fun and new activities, give plenty of sex and foreplay tips, and offer several different mindsets to use in the bedroom. While all of these are important (in fact they are essential) and will increase your sexual performance, eventually you performance will hit a wall or plateau.
Let’s take man out of the equation for a second and take a look at the sex toy industry. There are piles upon piles of sex toys, from vibrators, dildos, vibrator/dildos, pocket rockets, shockers, eggs, clamps, etc. While these are fun it is not what women crave. Women want sex, good sex; offer them the choice between a mind blowing sexual encounter with a man, or an all night party with every sex toy you can imagine. The man wins hands down. While the man pales in technical skill when compared to what the toys and machines can do, the man can offer something no machine can, psychological stimulation. Technical skill only matters up to a point, once you hit that point no sex or foreplay tip or trick can help you, you must take the leap to start understanding and mastering psychological stimulation.
Stimulating a woman psychologically is not something that typically comes naturally to most men. While stimulating the mind is an art by itself, it does spill into physical sex. For example oral sexerotic massage are other ways to begin bridging the gap between physical and emotional. is more intimate and thus emotionally stimulating than finger play. Teasing and
97% of men think that they have good sexual skills and do not need sex or foreplay tips; but when women are anonymously polled the numbers show a completely different picture. While 97% of men think they are good at sex and foreplay in reality the number of men who are good in bed is much closer to 5%.
Yes 97% of men think they have good sex and foreplay skills, but only 5% of them actually do. That is why this site exists; to enable all men who want to be “that guy”. The fact that you are reading this proves that you wish to become a better lover. This alone puts you ahead of the curve, and we hope to help take you the rest of the way. This site is dedicated to help men everywhere attain sexual mastery.
We wish to teach not only sexual fundamentals but also to give you a large bedroom arsenal full of excellent sex and foreplay tips. If this is your first time visiting our site, we recommend that you read these posts first.
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